What is a friend? The definition of a friend “is a person whom one knows and with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically exclusive of sexual or family relations.”  The fact that having sex with a friend can change the friendship should be an indication that it may not be a good idea.

I love hanging out with my friends.  We go to the spa, workshops, movies etc…There are so many things we can do with our friends. Can you have sex with a friend and still be friends?  Of course, but why would you want to?  Let’s discuss this new concept of friends with benefits.

Breakdown of FWB:

  • Having sex on multiple occasions with a friend you have no commitment to.
  • Not exclusive
  • More affectionate than a one night stand.
  • No-questions just do it attitude.
  • caring friendships and sexual enjoyment with no real emotional attachment (romance)
  • Neither party is the first priority
  • Usually, there is a fear of commitment from one or more of the parties

Can FWB benefit anyone?  Of course, it can be fun, having sex with someone you really like and are comfortable with this leaves the door open for more ambitious positions but when the sex is over the challenge begins.  Will you be jealous if you see your “friend” with someone else?  Can you separate your feelings?

The negative things about FWB:

  • One catches feelings for the other
  • The friendship ends

Carla’s take

I like to keep things simple, keep your friends and your romantic interests separate.  No need to make life complicated.  Sex is important, it’s not like sharing a pizza, you are sharing a very important part of yourself that is meant to be shared carefully, with someone that will cherish you and not just treat you like you are doing a favour.  You are better than that.  If you have multiple friends that are receiving benefits from you then you may want to consider changing your friend base.

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