Oh boy! It’s that time of the year again.  It’s that time to set aside ill feelings towards mankind.

I’ve already sent out the invitations to all family members and friends. I’ve prepared myself mentally for the ones that will say no, not respond or give excuses to why they can’t come.

There are lots of emotions especially when you have a broken family and many emotional friends. There is one thing you do have control of and it’s your time.

Here are some tips to keeping it together during the holidays;

  1. Plan on saying no so you can say yes to what matters.                                  You won’t be able to attend all things so saying no has to be an option. If you feel guilty about it, offer some options to make it up at a later date.
  2. Be prepared to give and take. Offer to help in some way. If not with cooking then maybe with the cleanup. If you are saying thank you too much that means you need to do things that require someone to say thank you to you.
  3. Don’t make promises you don’t intend to keep. This time of year is difficult for some folks so if you say you will give something give it. If you say you will attend, be there. I’ve been a no-show In the past and I’ve seen first hand how my absence hurt someone, You don’t want to regret hurting someone especially during this time of year.
  4. Know it’s ok not to pick up the phone. If you are busy with household chores or you are not in the right mental space, it’s fine to just let the phone ring. You won’t be punished for not answering.
  5. Ask for what you need. If you need some help with dinner, cleaning or just need someone to talk to, be bold and speak it into existence. You get what you ask for.

Enjoy the season!!!

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