I have my own twist on everyday words, allow me to share them with you. A relationship goal is a phrase that refers to an admirable relationship. A standard is a rule or set of rules that one lives by in order to achieve the goal. How do you allow others to treat you?
Nowadays many folks talk about relationship goals but I don’t hear too much about setting standards in order to achieve the ultimate relationship goals.
Have you ever allowed someone to disrespect you or treat you in a way that doesn’t compliment your life? Most of us will probably say yes. Sometimes we want to be in a relationship so badly that we sacrifice who we are to give the appearance of reaching a relationship goal or we do this in the name of friendship.
Every time I lowered my standards I paid the price emotionally, like when I continued to trust a friend after she shared my secrets with others or when I thought my boyfriend was loyal to me and I find out he is loyal to 2 other women at the same time and I continue to make excuses for him.
Certain standards should be a staple in every type of relationship you have. This is important for the emotional health of all parties. For example;
A feeling of deep admiration for someone or something.
Being dedicated to a cause, activity etc…
A firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability or strength of someone or something.
You can’t control some things people do to you but you are responsible for how long you allow them to do it.
Both men and women should be able to design a set of rules that clearly defines how they want to be treated.
What standards are a staple for you?