Life is full of games, sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. I recently fell while I was working out at the gym. When I was on the floor I did not want to get up. I was embarrassed, so I wanted to disguise the fall and pretend to take a break by sitting on the floor during body pump class. However, if I stayed on the floor I would have missed the rest of the class so I dug my heels into the floor, then bent my knees. I used my arms to push myself up off the floor and continued in the class. The class was great, could you imagine if I stayed on the floor?I would have missed everything, I would not have given myself a chance to improve my balance.
Some different ways to rise from a fall:
That being said there are many different ways to get off the floor when you fall. I’ve mentioned one way previously but you can also get up by extending your arms and lift your upper body upright and stand tall. The key is to get up off the floor the value of your fall is given to you after you have picked yourself up off the ground.
Life after fall
Now let me compare my fall to life. Every day we face a different obstacle. Some people go through financial difficulties, poor health,failed relationships and unsatisfying jobs that lead us to believe that things will never get better. We become stagnate and we may want to stop moving because we fear to fall again. Falling is not a bad thing but a learning experience, every time you fall your arms get stronger because you use the muscles to push your body back up off the ground. Every time you are faced with obstacles in your life find a different way to deal with the problems. Do not assume your problems are hopeless because that will stop you from moving forward.
Imagine if we confront our conflicts in life the way we deal with a fall, imagine if we take 100% ownership of our problems and work hard to find solutions, instead of excuses. After a fall we wouldn’t just sit on the ground, so then why sit in miserable conditions in life. Get up!
Here are some effective ways to handle conflicts:
- Be calm, practice deep breathing and gather the facts
- Make a list of possible solutions and make sure you note the pros and cons.
- Ask questions, you never know who may have the answers that you are looking for.
- Eliminate negative talk, believe in yourself to find a solution.
- Be creative, don’t always assume you have to go with the norm. Normal people do not do extraordinary things.
- State your affirmation, I remind myself of these words every day- I am smart, capable and ready to face any challenges that may come my way.
Do you feel you are ready to cope with conflicts?